Dear Dad,
You will never know how important having a father is
in a young girls life. She needs you to
be there to tell her she’s beautiful, she needs you there to teach her that a
man is suppose to love her, not hurt her.
You were supposed to be there to show me that a man is supposed to be a
gentlemen. You were supposed to be my first love. I should have been able to compare every man
in my life to you. Instead you weren’t and I had to learn the
hard way.
I went thru countless relationships, looking for
love and affection in all the wrong places.
Relationships that could have cost me my life. Putting up with mental and verbal abuse,
which I thought, was a part of someone loving you that was the way that they
showed affection. You argue to make
up. Yeah right!
I had to
suffer thru the ordeal of almost being molested by an adult male cousin. Luckily I knew that the first chance I got to
jump out the window and run home!
Instead of running home to a dad to say, “Don’t worry baby girl, I will
take care of it,” I ran home to a single mother of five. Who held me, while I cried, she cried and
prayed. Don’t get me wrong, I am
thankful that my mother was there, but you have to understand that a girl longs
for her dad, in a time such as that.
For years, I was angry and hurt, and I couldn’t
understand why you weren’t there to protect me, to love me, and comfort me when
needed. Even though I was angry, I loved
you with all my heart! I wrote you often, I had mom drive me four hours to
visit you, only to be you for maybe a hour tops. What in the world was that?
I said all of that to say this, FATHERS, DADS, POPS,
whatever you are called, a little girl needs you in her life. She needs you there to be her hero, her
protector. You should have so much
influence in your daughters life, that no man in this world would be able to do
her wrong. Every guy that she dates
should be compared to you. You should be
the best thing that ever happened to her.
Don’t make her long for love that she should already feel coming from
you.
-COCO-