Flies

Some people are just like flies.  Some say flies vomit or poop every time they land, some say that flies merely spit.  Either way it's nasty.  So for those people that are around you that only add, spit, poop, or vomit to your life, every time they land (they are around you), it's time to let them go.  If not, eventually you will drown, from all the spit, poop or vomit that surrounds you.
Surround yourself with people that are willing to be uplifting and positive in your life.

-COCO-

Losing Yourself

DON'T HAVE YOUR COPY YET?  HERE'S WHERE YOU CAN GET IT.  HAPPY READING.

http://www.amazon.com/Losing-Yourself-Rosa-Campbell/dp/1607250217/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1346256677&sr=8-1&keywords=losing+yourself+by+rosa+campbell

Who are you?

In relationships, we as women often get caught up in the life that our mate is living.  All to often I've heard women say, "I wanted to be a Chef, but I put that on the back burner to help him pursue his dreams and fulfill his goal."  Or, I wanted to be a nurse, a designer, a professional dancer, I wanted to sing, act, etc.etc.
So my question is why is it that we have to put our dreams and goals on hold?  Why can't their dreams and goals take a back seat for once?  Are we so afraid that if we say, no, I want to advance in the world the same as you do that they feel as if we don't love them?  Or that we are horrible mothers and wives for wanting more out of life?
Some men may feel like all women want is a rich, successful man to take care of them.  I'm here to speak for the ones that say; "Sir you are sadly mistaken."  I don't just want to be known as Mr. so and so's wife.  I want them to say, "Hey isn't that Mrs. Roberts, doesn't she work for so and so, or isn't she the one that founded, xyz." 
I want to leave a dent in the world just like you do and I'm not afraid to admit it, nor am I ashamed to say it.  I am Rosa Roberts, and it is my goal to leave this world as a well known, best selling author, we helped someone along the way, sharing the experiences I've had, good or bad.  Who are you?

-COCO-

That doesn't impress me

The fact that you can blow thru two thousand dollars a week, doesn't impress me.  The fact that you buy me nice gifts, day after day, should impress me, but it doesn't.  You see, I've figured out the reason for the gifts, it's to keep me blinded from all the other bull that you have going on, mainly, the chick (or chicks) on the side.  I will admit, the gifts were nice and they kept me blinded, for just a little while, but I've cleaned off my visual lens, and I can see as clear as a sunny day.

I'm not impressed by your status in the world, nor am I impressed by the amount of money that you make.  You want to impress me? give me these things:  Try loving me and only me! Try showing me some respect, not just to my face, but when your away! Your undivided attention when I need it.  You want to shower me with something?  Shower me with you and your thoughtfulness, not your money or your status.

Men, this is fact! A good woman wants your time and attention.  She wants to feel loved and respected.  She wants to feel like she is the only woman in the world for you and that she's woman enough for you.  Yes, the gifts are nice, but buy them because you truly care and not to cover up your indiscretions.

Men with status, i.e. (some, not all) actors, athletes, singers, can have the best woman in the world at home.  One that stood by him, when people didn't know their name, when things weren't always the best, but loved you anyway.  But yet, when the status and money comes, there seems to be a BIGGER ego that comes with it.  Now you have all kind of women throwing them selves at you: and you fall for it.

Let me let you in on something; YOU'RE STUPID.  those woman don't really want you for love, they want you for the things that you can give them and to simply say that they have been with a man of "STATUS." Some women even go as far, wanting to have a baby, because they know that keeps the money coming.  Why jeopardize your home life, for someone who want nothing from (other than sex) and that wants nothing more than to destroy you?  Because most of those type of women, when they don't get what they want, either, tell your wife, main chick, etc. or tell the press.  And now you want to look silly in the face.  How many times have you seen this happen? ALOT.   STOP BEING STUPID.  That would impress me!

He loves me, He loves me not

If I do everything that I can, to make things run smoothly and you do nothing, Do you love me or do you love me not?  I cook, clean, help the children with their homework, hold down a full time job, and on top of that I still have to do you! Do you love me or do you love me not?
I'm mentally and physically drained. More mental than physical. If I wore every scar that you've given me mentally on my back, it would look as if I were in slavery times, whipped by my master.  How much more of this can I take?  Should I take?
Enough is enough, it's time to put me first!  I have to love myself before I can love anyone else, least of all you.  I've given you all of me for years and it seems that you're always there to take, without giving anything in return, except heart ache and heart break.  Is this something that you want our children to grow up to mimic?  We have sons, do you want our sons to think that this is the way a woman should be treated? 
Again I ask, do you love me or do you love me not.  I'm stupid for asking the same question over and over again, because I know the answer: YOU LOVE ME NOT!
How many times can I allow myself to be disrespected, all in fear of being alone.  I can't, I won't.  I can no longer go day to day, worrying or wondering what you will do next.  How will I make ends meet?  If everything that I say is WHAT WILL I DO, instead of WHAT WILL WE DO, the I need to be by myself, cause it's evident that you don't give a damn!
Do you love me or do you love me not?  Let me think: HELL NO! 

For every woman out there who feels like you are being taken advantage of, nine times out of ten, you are.  If I've said it once, I've said it a thousand times, "People only do to you what you allow them to do."  I've been there, so I speak from experience.  Learn to love you first!

-COCO-

Not Meant to be Broken

It seems that you were trying to break me; break my spirit, but my spirit is not meant to be broken.   My spirit is that of an Eagle, that sores high and is very proud.  It spreads its wings, as it feels the wind of freedom beneath it. My spirit is strong, bold, vibrant and colorful.  Don’t you know who I am?

It seems as if you were trying to break my heart and you succeeded.  And now I’m cleaning up the pieces like shattered glass broken on the floor.  Though, my heart was broken, my spirit lives on and that will help get me thru. For as fragile as my heart may seem, my spirit is ten times stronger! Runs ten times deeper! It’s what helps me wake up in the morning and puts a smile on my face.  Breaking my heart is nothing, because it will mend; but if I allow you to break my spirit, you’ve broken me.  As I smile, I say to you, NEVER.  My spirit is not meant to be broken, not matter what you do.  Don't you know who I am? Come, have a closer look:  Look closer, look deeper, ahhh, there I am: A SURVIVOR!

-COCO-

I don’t know K Michelle or Toya Wright personally; however I wanted to comment on the “spat” that’s going on.  To K Michelle, I can understand what you are going thru, the man that I’m married to (won’t call his name, is a professional athlete and his attitude and temper is nothing to be played with.  To see him in front of the camera, you would think that he is the most humble, caring, and God fearing man on earth!   Off the camera, all I can say is God help us all!  There were family members and friends that knew what he was like, but they upheld his mess for whatever reason.  To this day, I have a restraining order against him.  That speaks for itself.

Now, has he changed, I can’t tell you.  I haven’t seen or spoken to him in over a year and nor do I care to.  The emotional and physical strain that he put on me, as well as my children was unbearable to say the least.

I’m sure if you ask the women he’s dating these days (yes we are still married), she would probably say the things that Toya are saying:  She doesn’t know this man that I speak of, she doesn’t know the guy that loved the strip clubs, that cheated with strippers, the man that loved to gamble, didn’t like to come home.  She doesn’t know the man that chocked me (just enough not to leave a bruise on a dark skinned girl) because I caught him cheating, with someone old enough to be his daughter.  She may not know that man, but I DO.  She may not know the man that every discussion was turned into a full blown argument (With him beating on something), she may not know the man that pulled a gun on three children (that I jumped in the front of) over the remote to the tv, but I DO.

Has he changed, he may have.  He may not be that person that I knew anymore, but at one point, HE WAS THAT MAN.

So I say to K Michelle, if that’s something you went thru, God bless you that you were able to get out of it alive and well.  Tell your story to help someone, but don’t be vindictive. And I say to Toya, if he’s not that man that you know and love today, thank God everyday for that, cause it’s no way to live.

-Coco-